My granddaughter just got her period and it was a big deal. This event is celebrated in her household as her coming of age milestone, and woke me up to the fact that I hold inner negative beliefs from that milestone in my life, due to the negative messages I received.
This event has given me the opportunity to change my attitude towards my negative memories and celebrate with her. In fact, I bought her a present called a Cuterus Pillow, which is a heart-shaped heat-able pillow. I plan on giving it to her with a message encouraging her to embrace this milestone. As her grandmother, I can model a positive behavior for this celebratory and significant milestone.
My granddaughter's news started a cascade of memories and emotions, and provided me an opportunity to remember my past experiences and the negative messages I received in my childhood which led me to feel the negative beliefs that I hold in my body about my body, which led me to remember that the brain does not know the difference between a false and true statement.
This cascading event is all connected and has been a wonderful reminder to redo the inner negative messages I hold inside and remedy them with affirmations using positive emotions like joy or just the word joy while rewriting or reframing of the memory story. Using affirmations helps rewrite inner beliefs.
Affirmations are powerful, and as one adds in a positive emotion, this gives the affirmation charge to be heard by our brain and aids in our ability to accept the message. I am very capable of thinking negative thoughts while being upset which uses the same process. This is an opportunity to rewrite or reframe what is a struggle into a supportive tool for more peace and ease in life.
My gift to my granddaughter, I believe, will encourage her to embrace her womanhood, and empower her with the idea that her menstrual cycle is a gift of her womanhood. This gift is part of a woman's strength, resilience, and empowerment. It is our rightful choice to embrace our bodies, honor our bodies and treat them as sacred vessels which is not supported by mainstream society.
At the same time I am gifting her older brother a small gift while imparting a similar message to him that he holds a responsibility to honor not only his sister but every other woman who walks this earth, whether they are older or younger in their life journey. He will have milestones too.
We can change our inner negativity by discovering the negative message, creating an affirmation that changes the negative message to a positive message, imagine, visualize, and reframe the message while adding a positive word or emotion to set the new belief into place. Repeat as necessary. This is a life formula I use again and again.
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